Thursday 9 June 2011

The truth about being Gay

Jobless is what jobless do. In my supremely jobless stint in Delhi, I met an equally jobless co-intern who watches dramas and soap operas and also listens to pop music from the far east. Thanks to that very nice person, I started watching a Taiwanese Serial and a Japanese series. But no, that is not what this post is about. This post about about how two girls when left to talk on Gtalk can come up with amazing and often mind boggling ideas.


Today is my last day in Delhi, and I was online talking to Aditi and also watching a Japanese Serial. We were randomly talking about how sucky our lives are at the moment, and I was dreaming about the moment my grandparents are due to arrive in Delhi tomorrow morning, and how my life will significantly improve one they are here. Well anyway in the middle of all this, in the serial, there is a guy sitting in a plush chair,wearing a silk Robe, and there are four people tending to his four limbs giving him a Mani-Pede (for those who don't know its Manicure and a Pedicure). OMG!


I quickly convey this to Aditi, along with this I also tell her my other conclusion (which shall not be written here), and there's a little talk about the serial and the guys in it. Then Aditi comes up with an amazing query. 


How is it that Gay men are supposed to be feminine well lesbians are not supposed to be, well, manly?


Come to think of it, maybe the media is to blame for it, like it is to be blamed for the rest of the stereotyping, you generally know a gay man when you see one. Whether it's Cam and Mitch in Modern Family or that adorable Lloyd from Entourage, they are all well, girly. I am not saying there are no exceptions like that football player in 90210 who Ted falls for, or for that matter even Teddy. But then when you see a serial like the L-Word you don't actually see those woman and say, oh they are lesbians! nope!!


So what is my point?


Well my point is that even a gay guy looks for the same characteristics in his partner, that a straight man would look for in a woman. Think about it, all the effort and money spent on expensive suits and colourful and bright clothes. While the converse is hardly true for lesbians. Most lesbians dress and talk like straight women.The thing is girls are able to retain their girlyness even wen they are into other girls but men have to inherently assume the characteristics of the opposiite sex even to attract their own sex that means, well sadly, ALL MEN ARE INHERENTLY STRAIGHT!


So that means when Gays or even straight men fall for a person it's generally a person with female characteristics! But when a straight woman likes a guy she likes him for his inherent masculineness, but when a lesbian woman likes a woman she likes her 'cause of her feminineness. Well, that makes all women essentially Bisexual. 


So next time you see a Gay person, think, is he really gay?


P.S. Thanks Aditi for a jobless morning.


DISCLAIMER : THIS POST WAS NOT MEANT TO HURT THE FEELINGS OF ANY LGBT PERSON AND THE AUTHOR DEEPLY RESPECTS YOUR CHOICE, AND DOES NOT MEAN TO OFFEND YOU IN ANYWAY. 

Wednesday 1 June 2011

M.E.T.R.O

Sometimes in life there comes a time when you feel that you've had enough, well you've had enough of being you, being the same old boring self with the same old everyday problems and the same old highs and the same old lows. Maybe Delhi was feeling this mid-life crisis a few years ago, and few public minded old people must have thought, "Well, what does our dear old Dilli need?". And BAM! that was the birth and the beginning of the Delhi Metro. After a few years it was up and running and run how it does!

You walk into those nice and clean Metro Stations and you see the airport tight security, and for a first timer like me, two years ago, it was all very impressive. Two years into the future I am finally in Delhi to do my internship and well using the metro became an almost everyday thing. Thanks to Bharat I even have a swanky blue metro card! 

In a Metro you see all kinds of people, especially in the ladies coach. There's the Blackberry\I-phone girl next to the doors, a foreigner dressed in a smart kurta and jeans, the giggly college girls in the corner, a few lebanese ( or any european) tourists with backpacks and ofcourse a few old ladies and there's always that one pregnant lady with a kid (cliched, but true). Metro is definitely the most convenient form of transport within Delhi. My trip from Moolchand to Tee Hazari was the life changing one, yup, the change in the locales kinda hit me pretty strong.

So next time you are in a Metro think of it like this, yes its a blessing, but also maybe its a signal to you to think about your life, and where you are headed, maybe you'll also be surprised at the changes you bring unto yourself.

P.S. - I hope someone in Hyderabad reads this. (There's no harm in hoping.)